Sixteen years ago, I wanted to kill myself. I had even set the day. I wasn’t going to tell anyone. I was just going to do it. I had tried every self-help and personal development modality out there and nothing worked to change the intense sadness I experienced every, single, day. I just wanted the sadness to stop.
Here are 4 tools that I started using that helped me to overcome the depression and create more happiness:
1. Start Every Day by Asking Questions
You know that feeling you sometimes have when you’re first waking up in the morning? When do you realize that you are going from sleep to awake and all of the heaviness that you felt yesterday is still there? It can feel like the south end of a northbound elephant is sitting on your head and you just want to go back to sleep – hoping it will go away.
The next time you notice this, rather than spiraling down into those all-too-familiar feelings, ask a question. Asking questions can empower you to change anything.
Here are some questions you can ask:
• What can I be or do different today to move beyond this depression?
• God, will you please show me something beautiful today?
• What else is possible here that I’ve never considered?
One of the problems with depression and sadness is that we don’t see any other options. When you ask a question, even a simple one such as, “What else is possible here that I’ve never considered?” you open the door to new possibilities opening up that you couldn’t see before.
2. Stop Taking on the Energy of Others
What if the heaviness and depression that you feel every day isn’t yours? I know that sounds kind of weird. But, here’s the thing, about 98% of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions that you experience aren’t even yours. You are like a big radio receiver. You pick up on everything that’s going on around you and you believe that all of the sadness, frustration, depression, and heaviness are yours when they’re not. No wonder you can’t fix or change it! You’ve been trying to fix what doesn’t even belong to you.
Here’s what you can do. For 3 days, for every thought, feeling, emotion, depression, sadness, despair you have, ask, “Who does this belong to?” If you notice that things feel lighter for you when you ask the question, none of it is yours. You are simply picking it up from others.
Use this question to stop taking on the energy of others and notice how quickly you have more lightness and more space in your world.
3. Move your body.
Simple and ridiculously effective, scientists don’t talk about endorphins for no reason. Getting out and getting active, even if it’s the last thing you want to do, will definitely make you feel better. Getting into nature as well as an incredible healing capacity.
4. Change your Point of View
Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality does not create your point of view. How many points of view do you have about you? What have you concluded about depression? About life? About why life’s hard?
If you desire to change your life if you desire to have the joy and possibility of living, change your point of view. Every time you notice a point of view that you have, say, “Interesting point of view. I have that point of view.” What happens is that everything you’ve decided and concluded as real and true becomes simply interesting and when it’s nothing more than interesting you can change it and choose something different.
Please know that it always seems darkest before the dawn. The number of times you have thought of giving up and then take one more step and things change for the greater. Never give up, never give in and never quit
You are far too valuable to the world. Sixteen years ago, I made a choice to stay and it was the greatest choice I could have ever made. The tools and the help are available to change everything. You are not alone!
What if you could wake up in the morning and feel happy? What if you could open your eyes and have total gratitude for the gift of being alive? If that sounds too good to be true, I am living proof that it’s possible!
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On - 19 Mar, 2017 By Dr. Dain Heer